I've been listening to the conversations going on around me the past few months.
It makes me really sad to hear all the deceit going on in places I would never have guessed it was going on. It seems like everyone is cheating, and misdirecting and just doing things they KNOW are wrong.
I'm glad I'm not a part of that mess. I'm glad I have a husband I KNOW I can trust and who trusts me and neither of us would EVER do anything to hurt the other. And to know that if we ever changed our mind about loving or being with each other, we would tell the other and try and figure out what to do about the situation- BEFORE we went out and cheated on each other.
How do people DO that? I mean cheat on their spouse? I can understand it if the other spouse cheated first- but how do they just knowingly go out and cheat for no reason? How do they even go out and flirt with someone else while they're married to another person? How do they let that happen? Do they have NO conscience? Do they really think so little of the person they married that they can just go out and act single?
Maddeningly, the worst possible thing they could say if they were found out is..."It was nothing- She/he doesn't mean anything to me- I don't love them." Great- so they threw away someone who loved them and trusted them to have a fling with someone who doesn't matter at all to them.
Seriously? That DOES NOT make the cheated on person feel better.
I just don't understand.