Thursday, July 28, 2005

He IS Real and No, I DON'T Have Him Chained To a Radiator.

We have to get out more.

When I sit here for 20 minutes trying to think about what I am going to write- a realization hits. Paulius and I have a practically non-existent social life.

I am deeply disturbed by this. I work nights, I come in, we go to bed, get up, eat, spend about three hours spending time together and then I go back to work.

On my night off(yes NIGHT) we sit home and spend time together, which is FANTASTIC, but we don't go out.

I've always been a bit of a loner, sometimes by necessity, then mostly by choice.
I have a few close friends- the problem is either they don't LIVE close, or they are Party Animals and go the bars and taverns on a regular basis.That's just not my cup of tea. I like going out for the occasional drink- but people around here seem to not go out at all- or they go out and stay out all night drinking and getting absolutely smashed.

My family are all workaholics too- I don't think any of them go out much, either, so we can't really make it a family outing.

I like going out to dinner and then have a couple drinks after. Or if I am going to go out to drink- I want to go somewhere you can DANCE.I love to dance. Problem again. Paulius SAYS he can't dance.(I think he's just shy about dancing.)

I like to go to the theatre- but most theatre around here happens at night, and during the week. And theatre here is EXPENSIVE too...My God- this is upstate South Carolina- not Madison Avenue, New York City!!
And the theatre productions aren't that good to be honest. It's just fun to watch them TRY.

We do have several seasonal city events in both Greenville and Easley that are great,but so far we haven't been able to get to them.....I usually have to work.

We have a Bluegrass festival in Pickens that is great for us "hillbillies". I love Bluegrass music in MODERATION, but I don't think Paulius is too partial to it. He would go with me if I really wanted to and he wouldn't complain(he's the most wonderful husband) but I'm not sure I want to do that to him. It would be like him loving accordion music and dragging me to a polka festival.

Granted, he loves his gamecube(you're very welcome, sweetheart) and he loves staying home and watching movies and spending time together, but we need to go out and be among the general population every once in a while. Don't we?

Or will there be time for that later?

I don't know what the norm is- or do we make our OWN norms?

All I know for sure is that I don't want us to fall into a routine that becomes dull and boring to either of us. I love the time spent with Paulius alone, but we have been married over a year now and people are beginning to wonder if I have him chained to a radiator somewhere. Honestly- some of my relatives are wondering if he's just a figment of my imagination because they haven't met him yet.


And he IS real!!!!


OzzyC said...

Who cares what the others think?!? If you two are happy spending the night in alone, bully for you? (My first attempt at Brit-speak, in honor of Paulius. Did I do okay?) It sounds to me like you're more concerned about whether or not you're doing what's right. Well, if you two aren't doing what's right for each other, you'll know.

Paulius said...

You worry too much, sweetheart.

I enjoy going out and socializing...but only when I want to and with people whose company I like.

I won't go out just because I feel like I 'should'

If the opportunity for a fun night is there...of course I'll take it.

(As for the Brit speak, it's accurate...but thank's to American TV, about 15 years out of date...and I'll strangle the next person who says 'cheerio')

Sunny said...

LOL- It's not that I worry about what others THINK- it's about not wanting to become boring to my gorgeous husband. If he's happy- I'm happy. Where-ever and when-ever.

LOL- What would really be cool, OzzyC, is to hear you SAY that in a Brit accent.

10 to 1 says you would do a POSH accent!!

Wonderful tribute tho!!

OzzyC said...

You're probably right. I suspect I'd have done it with a posh accent. But I realize that the British have just as many local accents as we do. I kind of like the Cockney accent. I dig Mick Jagger's and Ozzy's accents.

Vicarious Living said...

I feel exactly the same way sometimes. And yet, after coming home from an outing or social engagement, I can immediately feel all my muscles start to relax. Home is good!

We had married friends who, for about 2 years, we never saw the wife, she was always "working". It was a standard joke that she was actually chained in the basement.

serendipity said...

I'm not much of a social butterfly either. Once upon a time I liked to go out and get drunk and stupid in nightclubs but that was a LONG time ago.
These days i'd sooner stay home with my cats, or have a few quiet drinks with my friends.

Problem with this is it makes it very hard to meet anyone new....